It
started out with normal worries about making sure I was eating the right
things, and most significantly, not eating the wrong things. The anxiety slowly
increased and soon worries about what I was eating, or had touched and then put
my hand near my mouth turned into catastrophising and at times, overwhelming
panic. I even convinced my doctor that I needed to be tested for listeria
having touched something that hypothetically could have carried the bacteria –
despite washing my hands repeatedly afterwards.
Strangely, despite bursting
into tears at my initial midwife appointment and scoring low and therefore
triggering at risk for PND on their questionnaire, it was never discussed
again, and I kept it all to myself (and my ever patient, not knowing how to
handle me mid-panic husband!) I didn’t necessarily recognise how anxious I was
at the time, and I didn’t want to talk to anyone about it. Looking back, the
anxiety affected my coping with stress outside of the pregnancy too and I ended
up leaving work early and getting a very stress free temp job instead in my
final months.
Unfortunately during my son’s birth, I was failed by my midwife, putting my son at risk, and resulting in me ending up in theatre. I felt real
anger at the experience and mainly at myself for not feeling strong enough to
trust in my own body over someone else’s opinion on the telephone. However,
following the birth, all went ok. I was feeding alright, me and my husband were
doing our best. We were abroad and had no family support but I felt very
supported by him.
The nature of my anxiety changed when my son was born. Soon I
found myself panicking over germs and the cleanliness of everything he came
into contact with. When my in-laws visited I later found out they spoke to my
husband as they were concerned about me, but the anxiety was never really
openly recognised above that. It was just something I muddled along with,
managing ‘risk’ where I saw it and hiding it the best I could. In time, my
anxiety reduced and I became self-aware regarding the anxiety, feeling strong
enough to challenge it myself when it occurred.
About 4 months into my second
pregnancy, I found the prenatal anxiety returning again, and it was beginning
to affect what I would do with my son. I made the decision to self refer to a
local charity, and took part in a four session group CBT class. I was educated
on the principles of CBT and sent off home to complete the homework and manage
my thoughts and feelings. With the self awareness I had gained and the insight
of being able to look back at my previous experience, I was able to challenge
my thoughts and self manage – although the anxiety was very much still present!
I still catastrophised at times, I just felt more in control in general.
Thankfully I then had a very positive birth experience where I listened to my
own body and trusted in myself. I did not go on to experience any post-natal
anxiety or depression second time around.
If you'd like to talk about anxiety during or after pregnancy contact us at Poynton PANDAS by emailing: psppoynton@aol.co.uk or by visiting our Facebook Page www.facebook.com/poyntonPANDAS